[–]♀croakiee 60 points61 points62 points 5 years ago (32 children). At Drexel, I found sororities that truly care about their values, philanthropies and sisterhood. I really don’t remember much about their parties, but people generally liked them and respected the house. I've found many greek friendships to be very fake. /r/askwomenadvice Getting a rape kit done is awful. Again, no offense meant to your experiences, which are valid and good for you for having such a great experience. But for the most part, the friendship was extremely superficial. I made many a lifelong friendship and am in a lifelong commitment with two wonderful organizations! /r/fancyfollicles I know it isn't everyone's experience, but it is the experience of too many people. There is also a correlation between how tough the pledge experience is and how legit the organization is viewed to be. Yeah, no. Hazing is also defined different in different states. Throughout my process we legit became brothers and i am my brothers keeper. Having friends (on your dorm floor or maybe that you know from high school) that are already being recruited or even have accepted informal bids can be a life saver. We are a pretty tight group. [–]imjustapuppy 28 points29 points30 points 5 years ago (1 child). [–]Morgoltrollord 8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (0 children). So that got a lot longer than I meant it to. You'll end up in the sorority that best fits you, as opposed to possibly ending up in a sorority desperate to add to their number. Southerner here, I had to take etiquette classes in high school (private school). We had mandatory study hours based on gpa, because education is the priority. [–]♀suelinaa 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children). The chapter I ended up in was not only on probation, but even as a new member I had to attend all kinds of workshops so that we could get off probation. *I was not in what is considered an "Upper-Tier" sorority, so I had to deal with the pettiness which came with that. From my point of view, there's nothing to lose from going through formal recruitment (except maybe a week or so of being busy). [–]Ziggy_A 8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (4 children). Someone joins a society, they do stuff and that's it. … [–]♀minnie1008897 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children). Unfortunately, this meant we had zero repercussions against a member who got drunk and broke part of the bus we rented for an event. I'm just saying it seems to obscure a lot of other work being done. It's college, you'll be studying anyway. [–]ewoolly271 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children), Add ADPi to low tier and this list is up to date. [–]dorothy_zbornak_esq 9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago* (11 children). It was growing quickly when I joined and has grown exponentially since I graduated. A strong support system is really what I want out of Greek life because I am so far from home. How do you deal with the sadness of being ghosted by someone who seemed genuinely interested? [–]BaroNessie 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children). Things turned out to be completely different than I thought - I was one of only 2 music majors firstly, and the sorority was very clique-y. There was always something to do if I felt lonely. Everything is a bit more familial. KA- Southern boys and rugby players (although less of the latter recently). Sammy (inactive)- Drugs, crazy people, and more drugs. I never would have even considered joining a sorority in high school, but when I got to college (small, liberal arts school in the north), I changed my mind. Plan a manageable schedule and be sure to throw in a couple home runs like Intro to Acting, Art of Listening (both count toward your core fine arts requirement), Buddhism (core humanities), Drugs and Inner City, and Guns and Gangs (last two don’t count toward anything except elective credit, but are the easiest classes at Tulane hands down). I met some really great people through mine, but I've also made some superficial friendships that don't mean much to either of us and were simply there for convenience. I don't want to spend hundreds (or thousands) of $$ to join an organization. For real? Out of hair, makeup, and clothes, it was encouraged you had two of the three done if you were in letters. I even look back fondly on the fuckery of being a pledge. Ha, I know it seems really weird from an outside perspective, but running any organization takes a lot of work, and there have to be rules to make sure that everyone contributes. The organized structure can add or remove stress from your life. Feeling unaccepted by older girls in the chapter. What else...parties with themes like "billionaires and trophy wives" or "slutty secretaries and CEOs", mandatory meetings almost every Sunday despite your work and school schedule...and years after I left school they sent my unpaid dues to a goddamn COLLECTIONS AGENCY. Sometime being too frat can be a bad thing. Solid parties. As an introvert, trying to have a social life is much more stressful than showing up to a mandatory meeting, so it was a net win. However, even with all that, I wouldn't have rushed if I thought I would be hazed. Within my (international) sorority, absolutely it was common practice! Night classes tend to be easier too because they only meet once a week and are focused mainly on adults going back to school rather than full-time students. That’s really not uncommon, and many pledge classes will have at least one slightly older guy. After that I spent a lot of time volunteering and doing outreach about sexual assault. It was actually very interesting, despite the fact I never go to fancy dinners. © 2021 reddit inc. All rights reserved. I ended up just giving up going to meetings and whatnot because I didn't know anyone's name, and it seemed like everyone was getting together and hanging out except for me. Fines help incentivize not only attendance and participation, but also to avoid freeloaders who don't contribute to the org. I’m definitely gonna come back to this is several months time, and it’ll be just as helpful. Honestly, having that support system throughout some of the most stressful years of your life is invaluable. No agenda questions. Missing events was totally acceptable, so long as you sent an excuse in 24 hours before the event. Were jorts and Star Wars the only things that you went your own way on or are you trying not to bring up politics in this post? Our size also meant that our girls were much closer than most chapters, but we also knew all of each other's drama. /r/twoxchromosomes I tried to get them out, but the guys realized who I was and made me leave without them. I never understood this and I really do not mean offense to OP with this- but it just sounds cultish, or very weird. To me, the hard pledgeships are the “good” ones. You need to meet certain requirements and show that you are committed to them -- i.e. It sounds super strict and terrible, but really it kept me in check (as well as many others) with my grades and schedule organization. Worst: As nice as everyone is, there's always girls judging other girls. FIJI Islander is their signature party and it’s a good time. Having to interact with the fraternities. I will say that a lot of pledging involves "playing" the fraternity pledges. If you didn't get an excuse in, there wasn't a fine. [–]e-em-jay 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (3 children). Many other things that I can't think of now. So, it's a lot of fun, just be careful about who you invest your trust in. She shut it down so hard that 3 girls lost positions in the sorority and everyone had disciplinary action taken. We party too much. I think they paid per semester but it just never seemed worth it for me in terms of dues. My new sisters were very clear that they wanted to get to know us and bring us into the family, not torture or test us. It's not stressful the way you think. I can't help but feel that by that point in your life you shouldn't need an external reason to do well. Given that both groups are known for putting down alcohol, they’re known more for that than drugs. We used to threaten to fuck up the entire pledge class unless one person volunteered to come into the other room and get branded, but once he got into the room we’d just give him a beer for having the balls to stand up for his guys. I asked some of my friends in sororities this question because it was a concern for me as well. Oh, and during rush they had very specific dress code, often requiring us to buy hundreds of dollars of clothing out of pocket. [–]♀not_rachel 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (3 children). My maid of honor was one of my sorority sisters, as well as another bridesmaid. The parties are fun. Later, my younger sister joined a sorority and was also raped at a greek life party. Common Stereotypes. However, if you do get initiated, you will not be able to join another Panhellenic organization (this is CPC rules). [–]♂Redtube_Guy 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children). Girls in sororities are depicted as dumb bimbos who somehow scrape by to get a degree. [–]catcatherine 8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (0 children). Wow, this got a lot more of a response than I was anticipating. More chill than the SAE-types, more wild than FIJI. To this day when I see guys from my PC, the things we reminisce about most is the shit we all went through. Why be in something if you aren't committed? No seeking medical advice. Some places it is a felony and an automatic 2 years. You're at university; it's a privilege. The exec boards really aren't that scary... almost every organization/club on campus has a president, or an events chair, etc. I'm not 30 yet - But I will say that finding female friends at a school that's 7 men:1 woman was challenging at first, so we found each other through greek life. [–][deleted] 17 points18 points19 points 5 years ago (2 children). [–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (4 children), Well, I suppose that makes sense when you put it that way. You are forced to do a lot of things together so you automatically make acquaintances but as far as I can tell, it is fairly rare to make good, lasting friends (especially if you don't rush as a freshman). 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